Fourth
Sunday in Lent
March 30th, Year of Our + Lord 2025
Our Redeemer
and Our Savior’s Lutheran Churches
Custer and
Hill City, South Dakota
Building
Healthy Families,
and Knowing Your True Father’s Character
Audio of the Sermon available HERE.
Which son are you more like? Are you more like the younger, the black sheep, the self-centered party-boy? Or are you more like the hater, the older and “holier than thou” brother, who silently resents his father, and gets angry when his younger brother comes home, and is forgiven?
Neither, I hope. As baptized sons and daughter of God the Father, I pray you aren’t very much like either brother.
This “Parable of the Loving Father” – that is its proper name, much more accurate than “The Prodigal Son” or “The Parable of the Two Sons,” - this parable is fundamentally about salvation, about God’s attitude and actions to save us sinful human beings. Remember, Jesus tells this parable, along with the Lost Sheep and the Lost Coin, in response to the Pharisees and scribes. Those older-brother-like religious grumblers were complaining because Jesus was hanging out with tax collectors and other “sinners,” and even eating with them. Jesus’ main point is to reveal the loving heart of His Father, who, despite what we deserve, does not give up on saving us from ourselves. We will come back to this glorious theme in a moment.
But first, we who have been saved by grace through faith, who have been found by the Good Shepherd and brought back into God’s fold by His forgiving blood, we can also learn a bit about Christian living from this parable. We can learn about how to be good sons and daughters, good fathers and mothers, good brothers and sisters, even if from this parable we learn from two very negative examples.
The Parable of the Loving Father is mostly teaching us about God’s gift of salvation, but since the God who redeems sinners is the same God who created the world and humanity, and who has built the order of family into His Creation, it shouldn’t surprise us that there are useful points of comparison between how we should live as His creatures, and how we receive new life, as citizens of the new heavens and new earth that Jesus will reveal, someday soon.
If we could learn a bit about how to build and maintain better families, that would be really good, really good for our lives, and really good if we could spread this wisdom around to our friends and neighbors. Because it’s painful to watch sin and foolishness shatter families and break down our society. It’s depressing to see damage caused by degeneracy, the willful rebellion and pursuit of pleasure that younger brother exemplifies. Love of virtue is mocked by today’s dominant culture, and this mocking affects us all.
It’s also brutal to see hard-heartedness prevent reconciliation and joy, as older-brother types demand a pound of flesh and more, before they will be reconciled to a relative who they think has broken the rules. Real, no-strings-attached forgiveness is very rare today. Indeed, when the world gets around to deciding something is a actually a sin, then free forgiveness for the repentant is forbidden. A price must be paid by the guilty, demands the world.
Degeneracy and hard-heartedness are both bitter plagues upon the human race. But we know a better way.
The two brothers in the Parable of the Loving Father share a very similar problem. Neither believes that their father is wise, or that he knows and wants what’s best for them. Both suspect that dad is holding out, not giving them his very best.
The younger son thinks curbing the desires of his flesh for the pleasures of the world is boring, and he is ready to wish his father dead in order to satisfy his lusts.
The older son is willing to work the company-man route, but in his heart he thinks Dad doesn’t really care for him. Certainly his father doesn’t give him the credit he deserves for toeing the line and following the rules.
Neither brother believes their father wants what’s truly best for them, or even knows what is best for them. Which makes sense, because they are both, along with all of us, descendants of Adam and Eve. You remember them, right, our first parents, who fell for the serpent’s lie about God holding back His best from them. “You will not surely die,” he hissed, when Eve explained why they could not eat of the forbidden tree. “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” Satan insinuated that God was holding out His best from them, and they fell for it. And so all their descendants are likewise susceptible to disbelieving their parents good intentions, and also prone to disbelieving God’s good intentions.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Only God is good, and so there is no good apart from Him, no true good outside His Way. And the Lord God always gives us what is good and perfect, because there is no shadow of turning with Him.
We have been brought to trust in the unchanging Father who held nothing back, but gave His very best, His eternal beloved Son, in order to rescue us. This trust, this faith, changes us. We are no longer of the flesh. We are new creations, in Christ, by God’s grace. We are far from perfected, but neither are we lost in sin, helpless to fight against evil. For Christ has rescued us. He has given us the Holy Spirit in our Baptisms. He teaches us. He feeds us, with His Word, and with His very Body and Blood. So, we are not doomed to ping pong back and forth between the dissolution and destruction of the younger brother and the loveless legalism of the older brother.
So, what might we learn from this parable for our daily life in family and society? “Honor your father and mother” is a good place to start. God gave you life, through your father and mother; we honor God by honoring our parents. And kids start out life in large part wanting to love and honor parents. Our culture posits as a given that teenagers and young adults will despise and rebel against their parents, but this is not necessarily true, in particular for those children who are brought up in the teaching of the Lord.
We who are parents and grandparents might also remember what Paul said: do not exasperate your children. Raise them up in the fear and knowledge of the Lord, and love them. We give time to what we love, be it our families, or our jobs, or our hobbies, or our vices. There is no higher earthly calling than to fulfill your roles in the family: husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the Church, and laid down His life for her. Wives respect your husbands, following their God-given leadership as the Church follows Christ. When God grants a husband and wife to be parents, then husband-and-wife–hood morphs into father-and-mother-hood. The one-flesh union is still the hub, but the one-flesh marriage now serves the good of the children, to the glory and pleasure of God.
Hear this truth, which the world and our own sinful flesh so want to deny: Whatever your place in your family is, there is nothing more important for you to do with your time than fulfill your calling to love your family. Don’t let school, or job, friends, self-actualization or entertainment fool you into thinking there is something better in this world than the family God has given you. And if your family is so messed up to have thrown you out, which does happen sometimes, then please know that God has given you a new family to love, in your congregation. Because God has made family the center of life, He goes out of His way to grant each one of us a safe family in which we can love and be loved.
Life in this world can be better, or it can be worse. The closer we align ourselves with the order that the LORD has given to His creation, the better our day to day life will be. If men dare to be men, and women dare to be women, if we dig into the Scripture to learn each day what this means, good can and will result.
Life in this world can be worse, or it can be better. It won’t be perfect.
Except. Life will not be perfect, except when you see life through the lens of the Loving Father. Following God’s orders, the ways he has established for men, women, family and society to be, this will make this life less chaotic, more productive. We can avoid a lot of pain. These are good things. For when chaos doesn’t reign supreme, the Church has a better opportunity to tell the story of the more important family, so that more souls can hear and believe the fantastic Good News of the Loving Father.
This is the message of the Parable of the Loving Father. The Pharisees and scribes are offended by Jesus, who cares for and even eats with sinners. Their error is two-fold. First, they deny their kinship with the tax collectors, for we were all brought forth in iniquity. There is no descendent of Adam who is righteous in and of himself. No, not one. Second, they misunderstand the character of the Father. God is just, and demands justice. He is also loving. Indeed, God is love. So, our loving God does what it takes to achieve and gift the justice, the righteousness, that He requires, through the Righteous One, Jesus Christ, our Lord.
Your eternal family is perfect, because your Father is perfect, and your Savior, His Son, has perfected righteousness and holiness, for you. By His perfect life of love and His substitutionary death, (His death in place of your death), Jesus has achieved the redemption that finishes, makes perfect, God’s plan to save you. No earthly father or mother loves as much, nor in the manner, that God has loved this broken world.
God really does love you this much: If you wander from His Way, He gazes down the road, to see if you might be coming home. No matter how far you have wandered, as long as you are still drawing breath, the Father is holding His breath, hoping you will come to your senses and return home. God is looking forward to welcoming you with the best party ever.
And, for any older brothers out there, no matter how caught up in the Law and your ability to keep it you are, God is really coming out to plead with you to give up on earning His love, and just come into the party and rejoice. For what was dead, is now alive. What was lost is found. Sinners are turning to God, and that is worth celebrating, in heaven and on earth.
As sure as Jesus Christ lived, loved, died, rose and ascended on high, this is how sure your place in the Father’s eternal family is. So rejoice, for Christ is real, Christ is risen, and He rules on high, for you. Rejoice, and love your family, most especially by reflecting and speaking of Christ to them, so that together, you can rest in His forgiving love.
In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen.